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Am I Gay? Or Is This Just A Phase? I'm 14 and I have really been battling with my sexuality. When I was young guy, I had, like, 53 barbies, that's pretty much where all of this started. I liked girls a lot up until about a year ago. Now, I watch gay porn to masturbate and I have explored with anal penetration. Earlier this year, my best friend and I experimented with mutual masturbation, and he didn't enjoy it as much as I did. I'm very involved with theater, and there are a lot of guys that I looked up to as straight guys that challenge norms and do theater, but now I have more respect for the guys that had the courage to stand up and come out. I'm really struggling with this, I wish I could just be normal and end up marrying a girl and having guys, but what can I do? I do a double take whenever a guy takes his shirt off, but There are girls that I think are so hot it's crazy! I really have no idea what to do, am I gay? Bisexual? Part of me really hopes this is just a phase, I want some type of normality in my life! Please help!
P.S. If I am gay, should I come out, I don't do well with bottled up feelings! | Oh sweetie, the thing that bothers me the most about your question is the use of the word "normal". Being gay IS normal. It is not a disease or something to be ashamed about. Nor is is a phase like something you will outgrow. That's the way you were born just as you were with a certain hair color or eye color.
Please educate yourself about being gay. Being gay doesn' t have to mean sneaking around having sex in sleazy places with people you don't know and will never see again. That way leads to a lot of heartbreak and yes, disease. There are many gay and lesbian couples who love each other and create families just the same as heterosexual couples. It's true that that's easier in places where it's more accepted openly like San Francisco, but it is done.
Above all things, love yourself. Don't let anyone tell you differently. All the very best to you. | If homosexuality is natural why isn't the anus made for sex? Not according to studies I've found:
"Anal intercourse is the sine qua non of sex for many gay men. Yet human physiology makes it clear that the body was not designed to accommodate this activity. The rectum is significantly different from the vagina with regard to suitability for penetration by a penis. The vagina has natural lubricants and is supported by a network of muscles. It is composed of a mucus membrane with a multi-layer stratified squamous epithelium that allows it to endure friction without damage and to resist the immunological actions caused by semen and sperm. In comparison, the anus is a delicate mechanism of small muscles that comprise an "exit-only" passage. With repeated trauma, friction and stretching, the sphincter loses its tone and its ability to maintain a tight seal. Consequently, anal intercourse leads to leakage of fecal material that can easily become chronic.
The potential for injury is exacerbated by the fact that the intestine has only a single layer of cells separating it from highly vascular tissue, that is, blood. Therefore, any organisms that are introduced into the rectum have a much easier time establishing a foothold for infection than they would in a vagina. The single layer tissue cannot withstand the friction associated with penile penetration, resulting in traumas that expose both participants to blood, organisms in feces, and a mixing of bodily fluids.
Furthermore, ejaculate has components that are immunosuppressive. In the course of ordinary reproductive physiology, this allows the sperm to evade the immune defenses of the female. Rectal insemination of rabbits has shown that sperm impaired the immune defenses of the recipient. Semen may have a similar impact on humans.
The end result is that the fragility of the anus and rectum, along with the immunosuppressive effect of ejaculate, make anal-genital intercourse a most efficient manner of transmitting HIV and other infections. The list of diseases found with extraordinary frequency among male homosexual practitioners as a result of anal intercourse is alarming:
Anal Cancer
Chlamydia trachomatis
Cryptosporidium
Giardia lamblia
Herpes simplex virus
Human immunodeficiency virus
Human papilloma virus
Isospora belli
Microsporidia
Gonorrhea
Viral hepatitis types B & C
Syphilis25
Sexual transmission of some of these diseases is so rare in the exclusively heterosexual population as to be virtually unknown. Others, while found among heterosexual and homosexual practitioners, are clearly predominated by those involved in homosexual activity. Syphilis, for example is found among heterosexual and homosexual practitioners. But in 1999, King County, Washington (Seattle), reported that 85 percent of syphilis cases were among self-identified homosexual practitioners. And as noted above, syphilis among homosexual men is now at epidemic levels in San Francisco.
A 1988 CDC survey identified 21 percent of all Hepatitis B cases as being homosexually transmitted while 18 percent were heterosexually transmitted. Since homosexuals comprise such a small percent of the population (only 1-3 percent), they have a significantly higher rate of infection than heterosexuals.
Anal intercourse also puts men at significant risk for anal cancer. Anal cancer is the result of infection with some subtypes of human papilloma virus (HPV), which are known viral carcinogens. Data as of 1989 showed the rates of anal cancer in male homosexual practitioners to be 10 times that of heterosexual males, and growing. Thus, the prevalence of anal cancer among gay men is of great concern. For those with AIDS, the rates are doubled.
Other physical problems associated with anal intercourse are:
hemorrhoids
anal fissures
anorectal trauma
retained foreign bodies
Apparently, homosexuals contract these diseases at a much higher rate than heterosexuals.
It's sad that you are so blind to see the truth. You are living in darkness. | So am I to conclude from all that -
That anal sex is "bad" or that homosexuality is "bad"?
Because I love me some anal ; )
Nobody's forcing you into anal sex let alone with another man. So what's your problem? |
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